the best talks happen at 4am .

Last night we had a few friends over to our lakehouse and we ended up having drinks and just sitting and chatting. After a few decided to call it a night and go to sleep, the remaining three of us just sat and chatted. When you've got some alcohol in you, it seems that those are some of the best conversations you'll ever have. There's no bullshit, no hiding anything; everything is out there and honest and very real.


I'm not saying that you have to be drunk to have a good life talk (and I know that for a fact, because I've had plenty with the girlfriend completely sober), but it seems to ease everyone's anxiety about sharing the more personal things in your life. Now, perhaps to someone who hadn't touched a bottle all night, our conversations might seem like nonsense. But to be perfectly honest, everyone needs that sort of time where you can spill the things that constantly trouble your mind, by whatever vehicle helps you do so.

Trying to keep things and figure things out by yourself is not always easy. I have a tendency to do that. Lately, I've been fortunate to have some good friends and great girlfriend that I can talk about things that bother me. But I'm not always good at asking for help or advice either, and often get offended if it's offered without my asking. It feels like people are telling me what to do. What can I say, I can get testy sometimes.

There is something about the night that makes it all calming. Nothing else is going on. No one else is up. It feels like you're on some sort of retreat or something, and in that moment it's just you and few other people in a completely different world. I live for those moments.