I've been meaning to write about this for awhile; I just haven't gotten down to it. Believe it or not, even though I have a large list of topics that I've jotted down for topics, I need to be in the right mood for it, which is kinda interesting. Anyways, this particular one is about friends. This is going to sound cliché... but I think that maybe the saying that we take them for granted has some truth to it. But! Luckily for you, this is not what this is mainly about. To quote the Holy Book...
"There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends."
- John 15:13
The story then goes on to talk about a man who randomly knocked on a neighbor's door to drop off a check for $1000, knowing that his neighbors were trying to adopt, and could use the money.
The main question that challenges the reader (or at least, as I see it) is as follows:
Is your own agenda more or less important than your loved ones?
I think it's easy to get caught up in one's life and forget about the people around you. And believe me, I'm no saint when it comes to that and I think it's partially because of the way so many people forgot about me when I left to come down to South Carolina for school. And as I've told many, that doesn't bother me; life goes on and you just sorta get over it after awhile. There have even been people at Clemson that I thought I started a great friendship with, only to realize that it was just a passing firework, fizzling and sparking but then eventually going up in smoke. I'm okay with that too.
When it comes down to it though, I wonder how available I'd make myself, or even how willing I'd be to make myself available, if a friend needed me to be. It's hard to say. There are lots of commitments -- but in the end, what would really be more important?
Here is where I'll admit that I am not the most selfless person in the world. I keep to myself often because that's how the cards have been dealt with friends in high school. And it has turned into a little thing in college, and so if the other person doesn't try to keep the friendship going, it doesn't take much for me to give up on it. The worst part is when other people do try and I just forget or for some other stupid reason don't pursue it further. That's what really makes me feel bad. And feel bad, I do. Time management is just so fun...
And honestly I can't say that there'd be many people on my list that I'd be willing to drop everything for if they needed it. Granted, there are some, but not a lot. So maybe that's partly on me, for not trying selflessly to keep it up, whether they want to or not. Let's be honest; it's much easier to just give up. But that's not what the real friend would do.
But, regardless of my social situation, here's what I challenge you to meditate on when you read this --
How far would you go for a friend?