No, I'm not talking about the subject in school -- I'm talking about person-to-person chemistry.
Let me explain a little bit about how I operate when it comes to dating... I'm generally a bit shy and timid person, and the fear of rejection and anticipation of an answer when you ask someone out is very intimidating for me. Therefore, I like to spend lots of time with people before I really ever make a move to make things official -- basically I play it safe so that I know whether or not things are going to work out. It certainly saves the pain of short relationships, because it never was a relationship in the first place.
Isn't it amazing that out of all these people in the world, you just sort of click with some of them? Conversations are easy, you have similar interests and thoughts. I don't even know how that's possible. Compatibility is huge in any relationship, whether it be as simple as a friendship or a as serious as a marriage. Things just have to mesh together; they have to work. And yet here we all are trying to change ourselves to make the gears and cogs turn together. The question we all end up asking is "why the fuck can't they just fit together in the first place?!"
You're just missing that magical chemistry. It never happens in an instant really either. Or at least, for me it doesn't. I always sort of proceed cautiously, and sorta like to see where it goes and be a little patient. Sometimes it's just a spark, and sometimes you get really lucky and you've got a bonfire on your hands (wooo metaphors...).
Eventually though, you have to take some sort of plunge. Whether it's reaching for the other person's hand, or going in for the first kiss, there's one point where you're all in, and it's now or never. Unfortunately I feel like most people think it's up to the guy to make this move (especially those females out there who are quite traditional) and that's difficult for me to make that plunge, knowing that I'm teetering on a fence and that things could really go either way. Some people just like to be really good friends, others are either looking for or open to more.
Regardless, I've been fortunate to have that sort of easy chemistry with people in the past, and it's always cool to sort of watch it all happen in front of you. Though just as quickly as it comes, it can disappear and extinguish too, which I've also had happen, and I think we've all had happen. What can you do? Sometimes the flame flickers and sometimes it burns with unreal intensity.
So how to end this post? I don't know. But what I do know is that maybe there are more sparks out there than we realize, and that all you gotta do is blow on the fire a little bit.